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Jane Lewis in Saint Louis

jane lewisJane Lewis is a facilitator who works with groups and individuals to help them uncover hidden resources and reinvigorate dreams tucked away on dusty shelves. She is also a skilled and deeply compassionate practitioner of Biodynamic Cranial Touch with a capacity to listen delicately to what is present, but not spoken.

Jane has been practicing and teaching craniosacral touch for over a decade in Taiwan and elsewhere around the world.

We are delighted that Jane will visit St. Louis May 22 through 29 and will offer her healing services at Yong Kang Clinic.

You will be in experienced, respectful hands. This is a rare opportunity to work with a master of art!

 

At Yong Kang Clinic Jane is offering:

  1. The Fortune Cookie Process, a 1.5 to 2 hour inquiry into a thorny problem
  2. Rewriting the Lease on Your Life, for those ready to engage the big (and seemingly impossible) dream or to bridge the chasm between where you are and where you wish to be
  3. Biodynamic Craniosacral Sessions
  4. Frame-Shifting Cranial Touch Workshop, Saturday May 25 (Taster event from 7 to 8 p.m. Thursday May 23)

Read on for details. Or for specific questions email Jane.
To book some time with Jane, call the clinic at 314-821-9642.

 

There is no self we can construct that will survive a real conversation. -David Whyte

(1) Fortune cookie process

Let’s say you have a thorny question you are wrestling with, and it’s just not resolving by itself. What do you do? Most people find themselves at times stuck with a problem, not really able to do anything and thus stay stuck. But action is what unlocks everything. The burning question is what action?

lighting the wayWhat if you could just quickly pick up a fortune cookie with the answer inside? Well, it’s not quite that fast, but almost, and there’s lots of great learning as you arrive at your own decision for an action. With a fortune cookie session, people are surprised when a “question only process” opens up their thinking and moves them from stuck with no (or few) attractive ideas, to having a number of good ones to pick from. You’ll be guided through open questions to your own (frequently surprising) decision for an action you are ready to take. Once action starts, things seem to change, by themselves, and you are no longer stuck. This process is great for individuals who have an issue they seem to be constantly stumbling over, and great for groups working on a project as it builds natural teamwork.

The “work part” takes 1.5 hours, but count on 2 hours total with getting settled, and all.
US$150 (suitable for from 1 – 8 people)
When making an appointment, let us know how many people will be coming.

 

“Only when we admit that we have “no way” do we have any hope of finding one.”

 

(2) The “Re-write the Lease on Your Life” process

Ever wish you were another person — or yourself with another life? Maybe you feel split, with a part of you wanting to start a totally new project, and another part holding tightly to a lifeless status quo. Maybe you’ve just run out of juice and those things that feel attractive seem impossible.

It’s time for a new map of the territory … but how to redraw it? Bring on the re-write! fortuneThis process is a deep, fast-moving exploration that taps into multiple intelligence processes. Transforms underlying contradictions into resources, clarifies strengths you already possess and unearths hidden resources to help you navigate the inevitable challenges and opportunities that accompany any journey of change.

At the end of this process you come away feeling things are profoundly different. You will have your own map of what’s there, and how to navigate it. This is about creating from the perspective of the future. And it has a profound effect on your outlook and definition of reality.

There are two stages to this process. In the “learn while planning loop” we go through five distinct and creative Q/A processes that result in a personalized map of the whole territory you are working with.

The second stage involves three follow-up sessions (the learn while doing loop). These sessions will be scheduled at approximately 1-month intervals. The time working together will be at least 10-15 hours over 3-4 months. Be prepared to be surprised by the motivation that just appears naturally for the future for which you have been waiting.

US$1,200.

 

“Let the forces that created the body heal the body”

(3) Biodynamic cranial touch

This work, at a deep level, helps you re-familiarize with your natural state of health. That natural state that perhaps you dimly remember from another time, but over the years has become hidden or masked as a response to past or present emotional and physical injury or disharmony. There is no drug or treatment method outside of yourself that intimately knows your own unique blueprint for wellbeing. This gentle process reintroduces you to that restorative resource that is always waiting quietly inside each and every one of us.

This deeply rejuvenating work can be great at supporting deep lifestyle change of any type. The work is not intended primarily to be therapeutic or medical, although it does have medical and therapeutic effects, and sometimes is downright transformative.

Common issues people come with are -
- Any type of “mysterious” body condition whose source is unknown or is not responding in expected ways
- Repetitive emotional loops
- Anything feeling deep and stuck
- Long-term conditions where you are in an unsatisfying holding pattern
- Nervous disorders
- Long-term stress (it can have the effect of a deep vacation – and you can ask for a double session if it feels like this is what you need)
- Chronic tension of the neck and shoulders

“It has been my experience that presence is a more powerful catalyst for change than analysis and that we can know beyond doubt things we can never understand.  My Grandfather’s Blessings by Rachel Remen”

What happens in a session?

You come in; meet Jane and orient a bit to what you are working on. You lie (fully clothed) on a comfortable massage table.

wavesOnce the session begins, there is minimal talk. It’s quiet, and there is very light touch applied in a way that allows your nervous system to go into a neutral mode and allow for a deep experience of Stillness. You may feel you are dreaming or floating. Or you may feel muscle, breath, or energetic shifts and releases. Some shifts are subtle and barely noticeable, some are like bubbles popping from somewhere inside. Most people come out of a session with an unusually quiet sense of wellbeing.

Cranial touch sessions are US$120 for 1-1.5 hours of work together (count on 2 hours of your time as you may want to linger in the clinic for spell after your session)

Although not necessary, it is effective to book three sessions to encourage the body as it releases orientation to old patterns. (3 sessions, USD$300)

 

(4) Frame-Shifting Cranial Touch
This is a very short focused intervention that can be delivered in as little as three minutes, but having 8-10 minutes brings more profound results.
Through very light and caring touch (to the head and upper chest) all types of pain and discomfort, either physical or mental can be reduced and sometimes completely “dissolved.”

Who can learn and use FSCT?
Massage therapists and other body workers, nurses, parents, aunts, uncles, therapists, hospice workers, acupuncturists, or chiropractors. Really, anyone who works with people butterfliesand is able to lay your hands on them will benefit from knowing how to apply this profoundly quieting and effective technique.

Thursday evening May 23rd at 7-8pm we will be offering a free “taster” at the clinic. Come and try it out, or watch and see how you can learn to do it. (Please RSVP)

Saturday May 25 from 9:30-4:30 Jane will be offering an FSCT class at Yong Kang clinic.
In the workshop, you will learn two levels of FSCT that you can use for other people and yourself. You will not only learn a skill to help your clients, family or friends, but also reduce or release your own pain or discomfort as well.

The tuition is $97, and there is space for up to 12 people.

Jane is also available for doing these sessions at the clinic, the cost $20.

 

Life offers its wisdom generously.  Everything teaches.  Not everyone learns.  Life asks of us the same thing we have been asked in every class:  “Stay awake.” “Pay attention.”  But paying attention is no simple matter.  It requires us not to be distracted by expectations, past experiences, labels and masks. It asks that we not jump to conclusions and remain open to surprise.
My Grandfather’s Blessings by Rachel Remen

Cultivating Connection

It’s that Hallmark time of year when we are supposed to conjure feelings of unimpeded lovewe-are-buddhas-all, and enjoy an evening of infatuation, chocolate and champagne. Those us that have been around the block a time or two know that love is not a noun, it’s a verb. And that relationships, be they love, work or personal are not events, but a process of cultivation.

It is easy to get along when we are in thrall of a serotonin high tide. And it is often easier to deal with difficult people when we have some kind of connection to them. But, what about when we don’t?

I’ve put this question to a number of colleagues that either have natural talent in the area of working with people, or have managed to acquire some skill over the years. Here are some rules of thumb to navigating difficulty in relationships.

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A quiet “That won’t work for me” or even “That’s unacceptable to me and here is why” will get you much further than having a wild Irish fit, or letting fly with a string of profanity.

I have always tried to live my life by “respecting and maintaining the differences.” It is a principle that I generally try to remind myself of when others are really driving me nuts. It is about respecting life in general and realizing and that whatever someone’s path is, it is theirs. We can maintain that difference, even if we don’t like the person.

Everyone does what they do for a positive reason. This does not mean their intention toward you is well intended or that they don’t in fact mean you harm. Still connect with that underlying positive intent and be prepared to be surprised.

“…When difficult students entered our high school science classroom, I tried to have some eye contact with them and offer them a short greeting. A friendly ‘Hello, Jeffrey,’ might be the only nice thing that he’s encountered that day….I never know what they’ve experienced since they last left our classroom, so I try to not judge or say anything that might make him/her feel worse…”

When your buttons are pushed … cut the wires!

Challenging people? I actually have 2 answers to this:
When it’s an encounter on “me” time, I get the hell away (life’s too short).
But when such an annoying, difficult type walks into my treatment room, I take deep breaths and let down my guard, zhenwuthen try to see where I might be able to help. It has been a surprise to me that I cannot just tolerate, but somewhat care for people I have no personal desire to be near.

I will refer to chapter 63 of the Dao De Jing:
Tackle the difficult when it is easy.
Handle the big when it is small.
Difficult things beneath heaven
Are made up of easy things.
Big things beneath heaven
Are made up of small things.
Thus the sage
Never deals with the great,
But accomplishes greatness.

And that’s how I strive to deal with difficulties…..
I don’t see tasks or people as difficult, they are just all part of the wave we are on. So let go, and don’t fight. Life is not difficult; we just make it difficult in our head.

Remember that as human beings we are absolutely full of hidden assumptions. Cultivate the practice, with others, of uncovering them. I find it a worthy lifetime endeavor.

I find that starting by acknowledging why they are angry up upset goes a long way to equalizing these situations. Some sort of a statement like “I can see that you are upset” or “You are exactly right. Let’s see if we can correct this situation” puts me in a much better space to then be assertive with what I need under the circumstances. I suppose that it is a yin, passive response first which then allows me to be more yang, active.
Behind the scenes, or mentally, if I try to put myself in their shoes I am also better able to understand their situation and then try to give them what they want in a way that also helps me as well.

I believe that everyone I meet is a reflection of aspects of my personality and consciousness. That compassion offers a few response choices:
I do my best to get a hold of myself and cultivate and emanate love overtly or covertly to that person.
If I can’t deal with that part of myself in that moment, I’ll extract myself.
If I think what I have to say will be useful, I’ll be direct.
Lastly, since I’m from NY and I’m Italian and identify with that, I can blow up, too. Ultimately, “Do unto others…” is a useful model for me.

Don’t let yourself react, before you try and understand their viewpoint. By stopping your initial reaction, you allow yourself time to see if there has been a miscommunication or any other situation that can be remedied by altering your perception. It also helps to make sure you heard or understood them correctly. When none of these works for me, I take a mental calculation on the necessity and time line in which I have to deal with this person. It makes it easier to put up with others personality issues when you know the end is near.

I have a rule when riding the city buses. I won’t stay on a bus that has more than three crazy people on it. I just get off and wait the 20 minutes for the next one.

I don’t know if I have much to offer, as I don’t think that I am very good at all in navigating difficulties with others. In any case, this is what I try to do:
butterflies1) take a breath to get at least semi-detached from the situation
2) try to do my best to see the situation from the other person’s perspective
3) try to come up with some way to align our desires.
As a example, when dealing with bureaucrats, the best way to proceed is to make it so that doing what you want is the easiest thing for them to do.

When navigating my way through a difficult situation with a loved one, friend or patient, it’s important for me to be honest, and not hide or gloss over my feelings, and it is equally important for me to resist any urge to be self-righteous or cast blame. I state my truth based on how I’m feeling, and try to avoid any statements that start with “you said” or “you did” that sound like blaming. It helps me feel some compassion for the other person, and most importantly, for myself.

I cannot control chaos; I can only choose to walk away from it.

An unpleasant exchange between two people in private later may lead to different versions of what was actually said, so try to discuss difficult work-related topics with a third person present or in an open area.

This presupposes that there are “difficult” people….. Each person acts on reality from their own “map of the world”.  They have made meanings of things and have associate emotions attached to those meanings.  The rub is, if you take it personally, you become hooked. Better to be un-insultable.
Take the “personal” out of it and replace it with curiosity!

We encounter many challenges as practitioners, I think it’s good to accept the ones we are prepared to face and to elegantly turn down the others.

Having the last word doesn’t mean it’s the right word.

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What about you? How do you navigate through the difficulties that we all at times face in dealing with (so called) difficult people, or situations.

Resolve

Forget resolutions. Work on resolve. Work on fortitude, on depth, on the core of what calls and informs your greatest joy and foundational dreams.

cup of inspirationForget the small goals of losing X pounds, or making a particular figure of $$$. Forget about the habits you label bad and unleash your inner policeman. Dismiss your constant prayer of “this is not enough, or I don’t like that.” These in fact are the guardians of stasis. These are the ways we keep ourselves small, and distance us from the life that may be lived outside the artificial safety of the rules that we imagine will keep us safe.

Forget about the details, go for the throat of the monster. Dare the dreaming that may discomfort your family and cause the neighbors to whisper and sigh. Forget the specific action or behavior you conjure as a reminder that life is lacking, and instead name the larger process you want to unfold.

Three words. Three guideposts. Virtues, values or guiding constellations. Three guiding principles for the year.

Perseverance. Intuition. Joy.
Commit. Create. Clarify.
Flow. Simplicity. Authenticity.
Depth. Persistence. Bridges.

Perhaps the resolution is “more travel,”but go deeper to the resolve which is “Joy.”
Perhaps the resolution is “lose 20 pounds,” but the deeper impulse is to cultivate the resolve of “Sacred.”
Perhaps the resolution is “not get angry at my spouse,” but the deep well of “Presence” is what seeks expression.

Find your three words. Or better yet, let them find you. You’ll know it when they bloom a certain sense in your heart. Choose three for this year. And work them with resolve!

Found your inspiration?— share them here in the comments.

Facilitative Questioning

This is a demonstration of Jane Lewis using the process of facilitative questioning to get to the heart of what began as an unspoken dilemma. This process can be done with an individual or group to help the inquirer find an action they are ready to take with a difficult problem. Clarity often brings its own pathway to resolution.

The process in a nutshell:

  • Go over guidelines (Total time. Midway break to assess process. At the end an action will be named.)
  • Set a timer.
  • State the question, and have person give 1-2 minutes of background.
  • Then begin with questions about the situation. Answers to be in the form of statements. (helpful to have a note taker to track these)
  • Statements can only be made in response to questions (If someone starts making statements without there being a question. Then pause and clarify the unasked question.)
  • Midway through do a short assessment and revisit original question. Is this still the relevant question?
  • At the end the inquirer names the action they will take.
  • Ask if the process was helpful, and how.
  • Done!

If you would like to get Jane’s help with a sticky question of your own, email her, contact her on Skype at HawaiiBreeze.

 

Asking the right questions: An interview with Jane Lewis

Jane Lewis, who lives in Taiwan, helps folks move forward in their lives by implementing Personal Strategic Plans (PSP), We talked to her recently about her work.

MM: Jane, tell us a bit about the Personal Strategic Plan.

JL: The PSP is a map for moving toward, or creating, the future that attracts you. It’s one of many very elegant processes developed by the Institute of Cultural Affairs (ICA). Originally it was used only with groups, but with a bit of modification it can also be used by individuals. alleywayThe PSP itself is a double-loop process. In one loop, you learn while planning. Then you take the plan into life and learn while doing.

The planning has five stages that, when woven together, already set deep change into motion:

Clarity on what is going on now.
Your operating vision, or what you see in an attractive future.
Contradictions. In this step we ask, “As for your vision, what is it that is operating now and if it continues to operate, will it make it harder to achieve your vision?” This step is full of surprises.
Next is strategy.
Actions come next, which by then are very well grounded in the bigger picture. The process goes deep.

MM: How long does it take to do a PSP?

JL: I’ve done PSP’s in as little as 20 minutes, and had one take 18 hours. Usually the process will fall within these two extremes. It’s easy to spend two half days on this, and then you have a PSP that operates as your personal guide that informs all you do.

MM: Why is it so effective?

JL:  l like to say that I don’t really know. After people do a PSP, they tend to point to different parts of the process as being the transformative part. But, generally, there’s a lot of power in creating from the future. Usually we are so busy we see only a step or two ahead of us. This process helps you distinguish what does and doesn’t matter, and let the things that don’t matter drop away. It is a guided process that helps you to articulate the truth you already have inside of you, and this gives a fresh life map that shows you your own territory relative to what is calling you, what sort of tugs at your heart relative to what you want to do or be in this life. Then it’s often effortless to let go of what does not matter. It can also be helpful when there is another person – me or another supporter — who gets excited about the work you are doing. This person is neutral to the content and just tends to the process, to help keep your action flowing. Then a lot of what I think of as “noise” in life just melts away.

MM: How does a PSP lead to action?

gatewayJL: Action is a big part. Through action everything changes. There are usually three mid-way check-ins as the plan gets implemented. In the first, we look at actions and their results, and see how the implementation process is going.  Often things that were seen as time consuming are completed almost instantly; other things that looked easy just won’t change. The plan always needs to be updated based on how life really works. The second check-in gives us a chance to examine contradictions.  Often, one or two contradictions dig in deeper whenever we begin to work with them. They’re kinda sticky! It’s good to locate those. And then the final check-in keeps momentum going as your changes reach completion. At this point, many people consider doing a whole new PSP because life has changed so much since we began.

MM: What can PSPs be used for?

JL: They can be used to deeply refocus with any life change — from suddenly losing your job or getting divorced (or married!) — or they can be done any time to deepen your clarity on who you are and what really matters. Or any time you say to yourself, “Oh, but that’s impossible.” A PSP is particularly fun to do when things seem impossible!

MM: Can you share with us some small piece of the process so we can get a feel for this work?

JL: Sure. PSP is a guided-question process. Here is a little piece that shows the power of questions. You can do this with another person when you have a burning question. The other person agrees to ask neutral, open (non-leading) questions.

1.  Agree to a time limit (ex. 20 minutes).
2.  Statements can be made only in response to questions. Either of you can ask questions.
3.  Set an intention to listen to understand and to speak to be heard.

Start with a statement of the question you want answered. Maybe write it down and post it in front of you so you remember it. Midway, you might check whether the question has changed as you learned things together. It could be a problem, an opportunity, a new project – something you need to start taking action on and don’t now know the action. Also something that feels burning and important.

“At the end of 20 minutes I want an answer to the question of —–”
“I want clarity on the risks of this business opportunity.”
“I want to clarify the opportunities that go with moving to Paris.”

4. Set up a five-minute warning.
5. When the time is up, the supporting person says, “OK, what is your action?” Write down the answer. Make sure the action is specific, measurable, actable, realistic, time framed — and will happen soon.
6.  Ask: “Was this process helpful?”
7.  Ask: “In what way?”
8. Then the focus person asks the support person, “What did you learn from this?”

Jane is available to do PSPs or other similar “life maps” via Skype. Contact her to find what would fit your situation. You’ll get your documentation as an electronic file, mailed within two days of the session.

Jane offers:
The “fortune cookie” process. ISWOTA. This is a short focused guided inquiry into a thorny question you are wrestling with. At the end you will have opened the context around your situation and likely moved from no or few possibilities ahead to having a great number. You’ll be guided through open questions to your own (frequently surprising) answer.
1.5-2 hour – US$150

The “rewrite the lease on your life” process. PSP. The five parts of the “learn while planning” loop will be done in one to four sitting (total 4-6 hours). The three follow up sessions will be scheduled together at approximately 1-month intervals. The time together will be at least 8-10 hours over three months. Be prepared to be surprised. US$1,200

All programs include one pre- and one post- mapping email to orient you and help you reflect on the process. The first helps you make the best use of the session by orienting you toward the method with examples from other people to consider. After the session you will receive session notes to review anytime, or use as a map to the future. After your work together is completed, you’ll receive a debriefing email where you can reflect on the process and the changes.

Thin layer connections

It often happens through the most whisper-thin of connections. The seemingly careless moments of expanded attention, the choice to followup a seemingly inconsequential lead, opportunity arrivesor the introduction to someone via a friend’s friend. We frequently choose colleges based on the hope to someday rub shoulders with certain people, take the job at the company with the reputation, or build a resume on the well trod pedigreed stepping stones of other’s recommendations. Yet, oddly enough, the juiciest connections, those pivotal moments that turn our lives onto a new trajectory come usually through the thin layer connections. The connections so seemingly obscure that they almost did not happen, but they did, and it has make all the difference.

Thin layer connections, the ones so remote and seemingly insubstantial, are often the ones that tilt the axis of our lives. They don’t so much rattle our paradigm as they do clear our perception in such a way that the opportunities waiting for us shimmer into view. These are the connections that can not be conjured or cajoled, they arrive like the spring breeze, or the wafting honey scent of a promiscuous flower. They catch our attention, but we could just as easily have brushed them off with a nod to the daily grind of business as usual, or ignored their seemingly inconsequential invitation.

The Chinese have a term that comes close to this— 緣分 Yuan Fen. Some translate it as “fate” but it is not quite the same way we think of fate in the West. Here we usually equal “fate” with “doomed.” Something is going to happen and there is nothing to be done about it, the end is already known. Yuan Fen is different. It is the intersection of fate and opportunity. Something could happen. The conditions are ripe with potential. But, there is a choice. You can open up and make contact, and the world will quietly, but unmistakably refold itself into a new shape. Or, you can pass by the opportunity, like shielding your eyes from a momentary glint of light, instead of noticing the world just winked an opportunity at you.

Thin layer connections, the connections we almost did not make. They often have a paradoxical lightness and depth. Grasp hard at them and they fall apart like a spider web. Hold them like claiming the fragment of a dream and they will nourish you for a lifetime.

Discovery

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The most exciting phrase to hear in science, the one that heralds the most discoveries, is not “Eureka!”, but “That’s funny…”
~Isaac Asimov

We like to think that the practice of medicine rides the rails of reason and logic. That there are codified answers to our inquiries. That an expert has an answer.
Often enough this is indeed the case.

But, there are those moments, and they are not infrequent, when we as practitioners think “huh, that’s weird.” Sometimes we toss it aside as useless and inconvenient. As it is outside our expected norm, we can discard it as inconsequential.  These moments, if taken as a gift of curiousity, can break our frame and give us the opportunity to learn something new.

What makes a good doctor? That is a difficult to answer question, but I suspect that one trait is their ability to notice and act upon that which elicts a “huh, that’s strange.”

 

Gratitude

In our consumer driven world of manufactured discontent, gratitude is the antidote to feeling emptiness and lack. Oddly enough, here in the USA we have a day of gratitude just before the onslaught of advertising that whispers a constant stream of diminishment. Perhaps it is one of those odd “messages in a bottle” that the universe presents as a puzzle of contradiction– that gratitude and connection in a moment of quiet opens the door to the deep reserves of support and abundance that are always waiting, like still water below life’s surface activity.

It is easy to focus on what is missing in our lives. All the more so when advertisement driven media relentlessly suggests and cajoles that what you have, and more importantly who you are, is not enough. That the accumulation of years is to be medicated or surgically enhanced. That the toys in our garage need an update. That our relationships would go better should we possess the product prayerfully flashing out from our flatscreen window of wonder.

There indeed are reasons in life for discontent, but few have to do with the urgent messages extolling us to open our wallets. There are moments in life when we come face to face with the harvest of an ill sown crop. Realize we are following a path not of our own choosing, or lost sight of a guiding star. It might be that life takes away its generous gifts and we feel stranded and alone. Especially in these times when we feel the world shift and our hope ebb away, the practice of gratitude reminds us of the deep resources that only may be claimed– they are not available for purchase.

Gratitude is not a pollyanna practice of propped up smiles, but a deep soulful appreciation for the vast wonder, forgiveness and support that is available even in the dark times. Indeed it can banish the shadow with a just glimmer of its light.

Wellness from the bottom up

Almost anyone over the age of 35 has this experience. A kind of slowing or decline. We don’t recover quite as fast from certain illnesses, our digestion slips a notch or two, we have less emotional tolerance toward certain situations, or we are plagued by odd symptoms or feelings that fail to make their mark on a western biomedical exam. There are countless ways in which we used to have a bit more “space,” more “flexibility” or a greater capacity to navigate stresses and strains that naturally arise in the  process of living. Mister Wu has learned a great deal about people by working on their feet for the past 30+ years. He has this idea that as we age, our body accumulates small compromises that by themselves quickly become unnoticeable, but at a certain point will begin to interfere and reduce our body’s ability to deal with assaults from the outside, or can coalesce together into a chronic or serious illness.

As he says it, “the space within the body gets filled up with the waste products of not quite resolved illnesses, unreleased emotion experiences, environmental toxins or the residue of physical injuries.”

From my clinical work, I think this is true. Problems that we used to be able to shake off, now seem to stick to us. It is like a car with worn out shock absorbers. We feel every little bump in the road, and our ability to maneuver seems more mushy.

While I use needles and herbs to treat these kinds of situations Mr. Wu uses his hands, which he focuses on the feet. His methods include those which more deeply direct the body to heal illness, and those which gently can be applied in a daily way to strengthen our systems so that they can properly metabolize and expel the flotsam and jetsam of everyday life.

There is a little foot massage protocol that he uses to get a person warmed up to receive a treatment. It stimulates the spine and all the spinal nerves, the immune system, the lymph system, along with the ren and du channels (these are major acupuncture channels that are considered quite fundamental). Along with these are five points on the big toe, these stimulate and balance deeper structures in the brain and thus rebalance the hormonal and endocrine system.

You can do this little massage for yourself or loved ones on a daily basis, like you take a vitamin or exercise to maintain your wellbeing. It is simply done in five minutes, feels great, and not only will boost your body’s ability to metabolize and expel what which does not serve you, but creates a quiet sense of wellbeing as well.

The simple stuff is the most helpful

This is a guest post from Ashley Kuykendall, who interned at Yong Kang during the summer

If you would have told me a year ago that I would be spending the summer before my senior year of high school doing an internship with an acupuncturist, I probably would’ve given you the same look that the curriculum coordinator gave me when I asked her if she would work with me to set up my internship at Yong Kang clinic. Although, I have to say, it’s something I’m very glad I did! I spent about a month shadowing Dr. Max and I learned so much, but so little in comparison to the wealth of knowledge that is circulating the world of Chinese medicine. The majority of my time at YK was spent shadowing Dr. Max as he talked with, examined, and treated patients. I even got to do some pulse and tongue diagnosis of my own. All along the way, I read literature about Chinese medicine and the different techniques that are used, but I found that the most helpful thing I learned was how to do the simple stuff.

The miraculous thing about Chinese medicine is that it incorporates theories that people have put into practice for many, many years. These therapies are gentle and self-stimulating in so far as the change in your health comes from your own body (with the help of some acupuncture needles or herbs, of course). The basic, underlying tenants of Chinese medicine are interesting, and they make me question what I know about how the human body works. As Dr. Max and I discussed, any treatment that makes people say “That’s so weird!” is a good one, because if nothing else, it sparks curiosity for them to want to learn more and ask the bigger questions: “What is this doing?” “How is this working?” “Why do needles in my elbow help my knee pain?” In order to ignite the flame that alternative therapies could be, people need to start asking questions. This is the main reason why I ended up doing my internship at Dr. Max’s clinic. I had a lot of questions about what kinds of therapies he had and why his treatments worked. Even though I had been using acupuncture for a while, but did not know what was really happening in my body.

Beyond the science is the practice, which I learned, can be the tough part of Chinese medicine. I’m certainly not qualified to treat patients or hypothesize beyond a partially educated guess about their conditions, but along the way, I have learned a few things that will help me for the rest of my life. Most of them are to help other people; some will help me to gather information, so I can understand more about them. The best illustration of this came when I was nearing the end of my time at the clinic.

One day, I was sitting at the breakfast table at my office job, talking to one of the girls at work. She commented on the fact that I was drinking ice water, saying that she couldn’t imagine drinking something that cold. It was then that I pointed out that she was drinking hot coffee…and it was 105 degrees outside. I went on to ask her if she had an affinity for other hot things like hot showers, or summer time temperatures. Not surprisingly, she did. She then went on to tell me about digestive issues that she has as well as some problems with headaches. It became clear to me very quickly what was going on with her; however, from her perspective, it was just a bunch of random things happening at the same time. Her obsession with heat, she told me, is “just the way she is.” What I told her was that, from a Chinese perspective, all of her symptoms fit perfectly together in a pattern for internal cold, and suggested that she try drinking some ginger tea to see if that would help with some of her problems. She immediately responded, telling me that she craves ginger occasionally. Her body was already attempting to lead her to a natural remedy. This tea is a really simple solution that I’d heard Dr. Max pass on to several patients–she’s going to give it a try.

Another piece of information that I learned is how to better focus on what my own body is telling me as well as what other people’s bodies are saying. I’ve found that, more often than not, you can gather a wealth of information from what a person is doing or how they are saying something, rather than from the words that they are actually speaking. Personality traits and general body composition play a big role in Chinese medicine, and knowing a bit of background about this area can really help in figuring out whether or not people have a susceptibility to certain health problems, or if they tend toward one particular illness pattern or another. One such thing is spotting a red tip of the tongue with someone who has been suffering from insomnia. While this isn’t a remedy, it is a diagnostic tool. It’s helpful because it serves as a starting point to figuring out what else might be going on with that person. I also learned about acupressure points that can be helpful in ‘curing’ the common cold, neck pain, and headaches. All of these are good remedies to know so that I am more equipped to help the people that I care about, which is really what medicine is all about.

I frequently find myself educating people, ever so slightly, about natural therapies that could be used as alternates to what they’re utilizing. Most of the time, I illicit a response chock full of confusion and doubt, but instead of being discouraged, I view it as an opportunity for growth. Never underestimate the impact that you could have on someone’s life by simply telling them that acupuncture or herbs are options. While at the clinic, I saw patients with chronic symptoms lessen significantly and side effects of chemotherapy diminished. I saw examples of successful fertility treatments, and balanced approaches to curing women’s issues. Acupuncture isn’t for everyone, but it could be. Everyone deserves the chance to have an alternative avenue for healthcare and general well-being. As for us, the people who have already discovered the gift of acupuncture, the best thing we can do is spread the word. Tell someone, or everyone you know about acupuncture and how it can help. Afford someone the opportunity to bring their life and their health into balance the natural way.

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Jane Lewis in Saint Louis

jane lewisJane Lewis is a facilitator who works with groups and individuals to help them uncover hidden resources and reinvigorate dreams tucked away on dusty shelves. She is also a skilled and deeply compassionate practitioner of Biodynamic Cranial Touch with a capacity to listen delicately to what is present, but not spoken.

Jane has been practicing and teaching craniosacral touch for over a decade in Taiwan and elsewhere around the world.

We are delighted that Jane will visit St. Louis May 22 through 29 and will offer her healing services at Yong Kang Clinic.

You will be in experienced, respectful hands. This is a rare opportunity to work with a master of art!

 

At Yong Kang Clinic Jane is offering:

  1. The Fortune Cookie Process, a 1.5 to 2 hour inquiry into a thorny problem
  2. Rewriting the Lease on Your Life, for those ready to engage the big (and seemingly impossible) dream or to bridge the chasm between where you are and where you wish to be
  3. Biodynamic Craniosacral Sessions
  4. Frame-Shifting Cranial Touch Workshop, Saturday May 25 (Taster event from 7 to 8 p.m. Thursday May 23)

Read on for details. Or for specific questions email Jane.
To book some time with Jane, call the clinic at 314-821-9642.

 

There is no self we can construct that will survive a real conversation. -David Whyte

(1) Fortune cookie process

Let’s say you have a thorny question you are wrestling with, and it’s just not resolving by itself. What do you do? Most people find themselves at times stuck with a problem, not really able to do anything and thus stay stuck. But action is what unlocks everything. The burning question is what action?

lighting the wayWhat if you could just quickly pick up a fortune cookie with the answer inside? Well, it’s not quite that fast, but almost, and there’s lots of great learning as you arrive at your own decision for an action. With a fortune cookie session, people are surprised when a “question only process” opens up their thinking and moves them from stuck with no (or few) attractive ideas, to having a number of good ones to pick from. You’ll be guided through open questions to your own (frequently surprising) decision for an action you are ready to take. Once action starts, things seem to change, by themselves, and you are no longer stuck. This process is great for individuals who have an issue they seem to be constantly stumbling over, and great for groups working on a project as it builds natural teamwork.

The “work part” takes 1.5 hours, but count on 2 hours total with getting settled, and all.
US$150 (suitable for from 1 – 8 people)
When making an appointment, let us know how many people will be coming.

 

“Only when we admit that we have “no way” do we have any hope of finding one.”

 

(2) The “Re-write the Lease on Your Life” process

Ever wish you were another person — or yourself with another life? Maybe you feel split, with a part of you wanting to start a totally new project, and another part holding tightly to a lifeless status quo. Maybe you’ve just run out of juice and those things that feel attractive seem impossible.

It’s time for a new map of the territory … but how to redraw it? Bring on the re-write! fortuneThis process is a deep, fast-moving exploration that taps into multiple intelligence processes. Transforms underlying contradictions into resources, clarifies strengths you already possess and unearths hidden resources to help you navigate the inevitable challenges and opportunities that accompany any journey of change.

At the end of this process you come away feeling things are profoundly different. You will have your own map of what’s there, and how to navigate it. This is about creating from the perspective of the future. And it has a profound effect on your outlook and definition of reality.

There are two stages to this process. In the “learn while planning loop” we go through five distinct and creative Q/A processes that result in a personalized map of the whole territory you are working with.

The second stage involves three follow-up sessions (the learn while doing loop). These sessions will be scheduled at approximately 1-month intervals. The time working together will be at least 10-15 hours over 3-4 months. Be prepared to be surprised by the motivation that just appears naturally for the future for which you have been waiting.

US$1,200.

 

“Let the forces that created the body heal the body”

(3) Biodynamic cranial touch

This work, at a deep level, helps you re-familiarize with your natural state of health. That natural state that perhaps you dimly remember from another time, but over the years has become hidden or masked as a response to past or present emotional and physical injury or disharmony. There is no drug or treatment method outside of yourself that intimately knows your own unique blueprint for wellbeing. This gentle process reintroduces you to that restorative resource that is always waiting quietly inside each and every one of us.

This deeply rejuvenating work can be great at supporting deep lifestyle change of any type. The work is not intended primarily to be therapeutic or medical, although it does have medical and therapeutic effects, and sometimes is downright transformative.

Common issues people come with are -
- Any type of “mysterious” body condition whose source is unknown or is not responding in expected ways
- Repetitive emotional loops
- Anything feeling deep and stuck
- Long-term conditions where you are in an unsatisfying holding pattern
- Nervous disorders
- Long-term stress (it can have the effect of a deep vacation – and you can ask for a double session if it feels like this is what you need)
- Chronic tension of the neck and shoulders

“It has been my experience that presence is a more powerful catalyst for change than analysis and that we can know beyond doubt things we can never understand.  My Grandfather’s Blessings by Rachel Remen”

What happens in a session?

You come in; meet Jane and orient a bit to what you are working on. You lie (fully clothed) on a comfortable massage table.

wavesOnce the session begins, there is minimal talk. It’s quiet, and there is very light touch applied in a way that allows your nervous system to go into a neutral mode and allow for a deep experience of Stillness. You may feel you are dreaming or floating. Or you may feel muscle, breath, or energetic shifts and releases. Some shifts are subtle and barely noticeable, some are like bubbles popping from somewhere inside. Most people come out of a session with an unusually quiet sense of wellbeing.

Cranial touch sessions are US$120 for 1-1.5 hours of work together (count on 2 hours of your time as you may want to linger in the clinic for spell after your session)

Although not necessary, it is effective to book three sessions to encourage the body as it releases orientation to old patterns. (3 sessions, USD$300)

 

(4) Frame-Shifting Cranial Touch
This is a very short focused intervention that can be delivered in as little as three minutes, but having 8-10 minutes brings more profound results.
Through very light and caring touch (to the head and upper chest) all types of pain and discomfort, either physical or mental can be reduced and sometimes completely “dissolved.”

Who can learn and use FSCT?
Massage therapists and other body workers, nurses, parents, aunts, uncles, therapists, hospice workers, acupuncturists, or chiropractors. Really, anyone who works with people butterfliesand is able to lay your hands on them will benefit from knowing how to apply this profoundly quieting and effective technique.

Thursday evening May 23rd at 7-8pm we will be offering a free “taster” at the clinic. Come and try it out, or watch and see how you can learn to do it. (Please RSVP)

Saturday May 25 from 9:30-4:30 Jane will be offering an FSCT class at Yong Kang clinic.
In the workshop, you will learn two levels of FSCT that you can use for other people and yourself. You will not only learn a skill to help your clients, family or friends, but also reduce or release your own pain or discomfort as well.

The tuition is $97, and there is space for up to 12 people.

Jane is also available for doing these sessions at the clinic, the cost $20.

 

Life offers its wisdom generously.  Everything teaches.  Not everyone learns.  Life asks of us the same thing we have been asked in every class:  “Stay awake.” “Pay attention.”  But paying attention is no simple matter.  It requires us not to be distracted by expectations, past experiences, labels and masks. It asks that we not jump to conclusions and remain open to surprise.
My Grandfather’s Blessings by Rachel Remen

Cultivating Connection

It’s that Hallmark time of year when we are supposed to conjure feelings of unimpeded lovewe-are-buddhas-all, and enjoy an evening of infatuation, chocolate and champagne. Those us that have been around the block a time or two know that love is not a noun, it’s a verb. And that relationships, be they love, work or personal are not events, but a process of cultivation.

It is easy to get along when we are in thrall of a serotonin high tide. And it is often easier to deal with difficult people when we have some kind of connection to them. But, what about when we don’t?

I’ve put this question to a number of colleagues that either have natural talent in the area of working with people, or have managed to acquire some skill over the years. Here are some rules of thumb to navigating difficulty in relationships.

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A quiet “That won’t work for me” or even “That’s unacceptable to me and here is why” will get you much further than having a wild Irish fit, or letting fly with a string of profanity.

I have always tried to live my life by “respecting and maintaining the differences.” It is a principle that I generally try to remind myself of when others are really driving me nuts. It is about respecting life in general and realizing and that whatever someone’s path is, it is theirs. We can maintain that difference, even if we don’t like the person.

Everyone does what they do for a positive reason. This does not mean their intention toward you is well intended or that they don’t in fact mean you harm. Still connect with that underlying positive intent and be prepared to be surprised.

“…When difficult students entered our high school science classroom, I tried to have some eye contact with them and offer them a short greeting. A friendly ‘Hello, Jeffrey,’ might be the only nice thing that he’s encountered that day….I never know what they’ve experienced since they last left our classroom, so I try to not judge or say anything that might make him/her feel worse…”

When your buttons are pushed … cut the wires!

Challenging people? I actually have 2 answers to this:
When it’s an encounter on “me” time, I get the hell away (life’s too short).
But when such an annoying, difficult type walks into my treatment room, I take deep breaths and let down my guard, zhenwuthen try to see where I might be able to help. It has been a surprise to me that I cannot just tolerate, but somewhat care for people I have no personal desire to be near.

I will refer to chapter 63 of the Dao De Jing:
Tackle the difficult when it is easy.
Handle the big when it is small.
Difficult things beneath heaven
Are made up of easy things.
Big things beneath heaven
Are made up of small things.
Thus the sage
Never deals with the great,
But accomplishes greatness.

And that’s how I strive to deal with difficulties…..
I don’t see tasks or people as difficult, they are just all part of the wave we are on. So let go, and don’t fight. Life is not difficult; we just make it difficult in our head.

Remember that as human beings we are absolutely full of hidden assumptions. Cultivate the practice, with others, of uncovering them. I find it a worthy lifetime endeavor.

I find that starting by acknowledging why they are angry up upset goes a long way to equalizing these situations. Some sort of a statement like “I can see that you are upset” or “You are exactly right. Let’s see if we can correct this situation” puts me in a much better space to then be assertive with what I need under the circumstances. I suppose that it is a yin, passive response first which then allows me to be more yang, active.
Behind the scenes, or mentally, if I try to put myself in their shoes I am also better able to understand their situation and then try to give them what they want in a way that also helps me as well.

I believe that everyone I meet is a reflection of aspects of my personality and consciousness. That compassion offers a few response choices:
I do my best to get a hold of myself and cultivate and emanate love overtly or covertly to that person.
If I can’t deal with that part of myself in that moment, I’ll extract myself.
If I think what I have to say will be useful, I’ll be direct.
Lastly, since I’m from NY and I’m Italian and identify with that, I can blow up, too. Ultimately, “Do unto others…” is a useful model for me.

Don’t let yourself react, before you try and understand their viewpoint. By stopping your initial reaction, you allow yourself time to see if there has been a miscommunication or any other situation that can be remedied by altering your perception. It also helps to make sure you heard or understood them correctly. When none of these works for me, I take a mental calculation on the necessity and time line in which I have to deal with this person. It makes it easier to put up with others personality issues when you know the end is near.

I have a rule when riding the city buses. I won’t stay on a bus that has more than three crazy people on it. I just get off and wait the 20 minutes for the next one.

I don’t know if I have much to offer, as I don’t think that I am very good at all in navigating difficulties with others. In any case, this is what I try to do:
butterflies1) take a breath to get at least semi-detached from the situation
2) try to do my best to see the situation from the other person’s perspective
3) try to come up with some way to align our desires.
As a example, when dealing with bureaucrats, the best way to proceed is to make it so that doing what you want is the easiest thing for them to do.

When navigating my way through a difficult situation with a loved one, friend or patient, it’s important for me to be honest, and not hide or gloss over my feelings, and it is equally important for me to resist any urge to be self-righteous or cast blame. I state my truth based on how I’m feeling, and try to avoid any statements that start with “you said” or “you did” that sound like blaming. It helps me feel some compassion for the other person, and most importantly, for myself.

I cannot control chaos; I can only choose to walk away from it.

An unpleasant exchange between two people in private later may lead to different versions of what was actually said, so try to discuss difficult work-related topics with a third person present or in an open area.

This presupposes that there are “difficult” people….. Each person acts on reality from their own “map of the world”.  They have made meanings of things and have associate emotions attached to those meanings.  The rub is, if you take it personally, you become hooked. Better to be un-insultable.
Take the “personal” out of it and replace it with curiosity!

We encounter many challenges as practitioners, I think it’s good to accept the ones we are prepared to face and to elegantly turn down the others.

Having the last word doesn’t mean it’s the right word.

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What about you? How do you navigate through the difficulties that we all at times face in dealing with (so called) difficult people, or situations.

Resolve

Forget resolutions. Work on resolve. Work on fortitude, on depth, on the core of what calls and informs your greatest joy and foundational dreams.

cup of inspirationForget the small goals of losing X pounds, or making a particular figure of $$$. Forget about the habits you label bad and unleash your inner policeman. Dismiss your constant prayer of “this is not enough, or I don’t like that.” These in fact are the guardians of stasis. These are the ways we keep ourselves small, and distance us from the life that may be lived outside the artificial safety of the rules that we imagine will keep us safe.

Forget about the details, go for the throat of the monster. Dare the dreaming that may discomfort your family and cause the neighbors to whisper and sigh. Forget the specific action or behavior you conjure as a reminder that life is lacking, and instead name the larger process you want to unfold.

Three words. Three guideposts. Virtues, values or guiding constellations. Three guiding principles for the year.

Perseverance. Intuition. Joy.
Commit. Create. Clarify.
Flow. Simplicity. Authenticity.
Depth. Persistence. Bridges.

Perhaps the resolution is “more travel,”but go deeper to the resolve which is “Joy.”
Perhaps the resolution is “lose 20 pounds,” but the deeper impulse is to cultivate the resolve of “Sacred.”
Perhaps the resolution is “not get angry at my spouse,” but the deep well of “Presence” is what seeks expression.

Find your three words. Or better yet, let them find you. You’ll know it when they bloom a certain sense in your heart. Choose three for this year. And work them with resolve!

Found your inspiration?— share them here in the comments.

Facilitative Questioning

This is a demonstration of Jane Lewis using the process of facilitative questioning to get to the heart of what began as an unspoken dilemma. This process can be done with an individual or group to help the inquirer find an action they are ready to take with a difficult problem. Clarity often brings its own pathway to resolution.

The process in a nutshell:

  • Go over guidelines (Total time. Midway break to assess process. At the end an action will be named.)
  • Set a timer.
  • State the question, and have person give 1-2 minutes of background.
  • Then begin with questions about the situation. Answers to be in the form of statements. (helpful to have a note taker to track these)
  • Statements can only be made in response to questions (If someone starts making statements without there being a question. Then pause and clarify the unasked question.)
  • Midway through do a short assessment and revisit original question. Is this still the relevant question?
  • At the end the inquirer names the action they will take.
  • Ask if the process was helpful, and how.
  • Done!

If you would like to get Jane’s help with a sticky question of your own, email her, contact her on Skype at HawaiiBreeze.

 

Asking the right questions: An interview with Jane Lewis

Jane Lewis, who lives in Taiwan, helps folks move forward in their lives by implementing Personal Strategic Plans (PSP), We talked to her recently about her work.

MM: Jane, tell us a bit about the Personal Strategic Plan.

JL: The PSP is a map for moving toward, or creating, the future that attracts you. It’s one of many very elegant processes developed by the Institute of Cultural Affairs (ICA). Originally it was used only with groups, but with a bit of modification it can also be used by individuals. alleywayThe PSP itself is a double-loop process. In one loop, you learn while planning. Then you take the plan into life and learn while doing.

The planning has five stages that, when woven together, already set deep change into motion:

Clarity on what is going on now.
Your operating vision, or what you see in an attractive future.
Contradictions. In this step we ask, “As for your vision, what is it that is operating now and if it continues to operate, will it make it harder to achieve your vision?” This step is full of surprises.
Next is strategy.
Actions come next, which by then are very well grounded in the bigger picture. The process goes deep.

MM: How long does it take to do a PSP?

JL: I’ve done PSP’s in as little as 20 minutes, and had one take 18 hours. Usually the process will fall within these two extremes. It’s easy to spend two half days on this, and then you have a PSP that operates as your personal guide that informs all you do.

MM: Why is it so effective?

JL:  l like to say that I don’t really know. After people do a PSP, they tend to point to different parts of the process as being the transformative part. But, generally, there’s a lot of power in creating from the future. Usually we are so busy we see only a step or two ahead of us. This process helps you distinguish what does and doesn’t matter, and let the things that don’t matter drop away. It is a guided process that helps you to articulate the truth you already have inside of you, and this gives a fresh life map that shows you your own territory relative to what is calling you, what sort of tugs at your heart relative to what you want to do or be in this life. Then it’s often effortless to let go of what does not matter. It can also be helpful when there is another person – me or another supporter — who gets excited about the work you are doing. This person is neutral to the content and just tends to the process, to help keep your action flowing. Then a lot of what I think of as “noise” in life just melts away.

MM: How does a PSP lead to action?

gatewayJL: Action is a big part. Through action everything changes. There are usually three mid-way check-ins as the plan gets implemented. In the first, we look at actions and their results, and see how the implementation process is going.  Often things that were seen as time consuming are completed almost instantly; other things that looked easy just won’t change. The plan always needs to be updated based on how life really works. The second check-in gives us a chance to examine contradictions.  Often, one or two contradictions dig in deeper whenever we begin to work with them. They’re kinda sticky! It’s good to locate those. And then the final check-in keeps momentum going as your changes reach completion. At this point, many people consider doing a whole new PSP because life has changed so much since we began.

MM: What can PSPs be used for?

JL: They can be used to deeply refocus with any life change — from suddenly losing your job or getting divorced (or married!) — or they can be done any time to deepen your clarity on who you are and what really matters. Or any time you say to yourself, “Oh, but that’s impossible.” A PSP is particularly fun to do when things seem impossible!

MM: Can you share with us some small piece of the process so we can get a feel for this work?

JL: Sure. PSP is a guided-question process. Here is a little piece that shows the power of questions. You can do this with another person when you have a burning question. The other person agrees to ask neutral, open (non-leading) questions.

1.  Agree to a time limit (ex. 20 minutes).
2.  Statements can be made only in response to questions. Either of you can ask questions.
3.  Set an intention to listen to understand and to speak to be heard.

Start with a statement of the question you want answered. Maybe write it down and post it in front of you so you remember it. Midway, you might check whether the question has changed as you learned things together. It could be a problem, an opportunity, a new project – something you need to start taking action on and don’t now know the action. Also something that feels burning and important.

“At the end of 20 minutes I want an answer to the question of —–”
“I want clarity on the risks of this business opportunity.”
“I want to clarify the opportunities that go with moving to Paris.”

4. Set up a five-minute warning.
5. When the time is up, the supporting person says, “OK, what is your action?” Write down the answer. Make sure the action is specific, measurable, actable, realistic, time framed — and will happen soon.
6.  Ask: “Was this process helpful?”
7.  Ask: “In what way?”
8. Then the focus person asks the support person, “What did you learn from this?”

Jane is available to do PSPs or other similar “life maps” via Skype. Contact her to find what would fit your situation. You’ll get your documentation as an electronic file, mailed within two days of the session.

Jane offers:
The “fortune cookie” process. ISWOTA. This is a short focused guided inquiry into a thorny question you are wrestling with. At the end you will have opened the context around your situation and likely moved from no or few possibilities ahead to having a great number. You’ll be guided through open questions to your own (frequently surprising) answer.
1.5-2 hour – US$150

The “rewrite the lease on your life” process. PSP. The five parts of the “learn while planning” loop will be done in one to four sitting (total 4-6 hours). The three follow up sessions will be scheduled together at approximately 1-month intervals. The time together will be at least 8-10 hours over three months. Be prepared to be surprised. US$1,200

All programs include one pre- and one post- mapping email to orient you and help you reflect on the process. The first helps you make the best use of the session by orienting you toward the method with examples from other people to consider. After the session you will receive session notes to review anytime, or use as a map to the future. After your work together is completed, you’ll receive a debriefing email where you can reflect on the process and the changes.

Thin layer connections

It often happens through the most whisper-thin of connections. The seemingly careless moments of expanded attention, the choice to followup a seemingly inconsequential lead, opportunity arrivesor the introduction to someone via a friend’s friend. We frequently choose colleges based on the hope to someday rub shoulders with certain people, take the job at the company with the reputation, or build a resume on the well trod pedigreed stepping stones of other’s recommendations. Yet, oddly enough, the juiciest connections, those pivotal moments that turn our lives onto a new trajectory come usually through the thin layer connections. The connections so seemingly obscure that they almost did not happen, but they did, and it has make all the difference.

Thin layer connections, the ones so remote and seemingly insubstantial, are often the ones that tilt the axis of our lives. They don’t so much rattle our paradigm as they do clear our perception in such a way that the opportunities waiting for us shimmer into view. These are the connections that can not be conjured or cajoled, they arrive like the spring breeze, or the wafting honey scent of a promiscuous flower. They catch our attention, but we could just as easily have brushed them off with a nod to the daily grind of business as usual, or ignored their seemingly inconsequential invitation.

The Chinese have a term that comes close to this— 緣分 Yuan Fen. Some translate it as “fate” but it is not quite the same way we think of fate in the West. Here we usually equal “fate” with “doomed.” Something is going to happen and there is nothing to be done about it, the end is already known. Yuan Fen is different. It is the intersection of fate and opportunity. Something could happen. The conditions are ripe with potential. But, there is a choice. You can open up and make contact, and the world will quietly, but unmistakably refold itself into a new shape. Or, you can pass by the opportunity, like shielding your eyes from a momentary glint of light, instead of noticing the world just winked an opportunity at you.

Thin layer connections, the connections we almost did not make. They often have a paradoxical lightness and depth. Grasp hard at them and they fall apart like a spider web. Hold them like claiming the fragment of a dream and they will nourish you for a lifetime.

Discovery

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The most exciting phrase to hear in science, the one that heralds the most discoveries, is not “Eureka!”, but “That’s funny…”
~Isaac Asimov

We like to think that the practice of medicine rides the rails of reason and logic. That there are codified answers to our inquiries. That an expert has an answer.
Often enough this is indeed the case.

But, there are those moments, and they are not infrequent, when we as practitioners think “huh, that’s weird.” Sometimes we toss it aside as useless and inconvenient. As it is outside our expected norm, we can discard it as inconsequential.  These moments, if taken as a gift of curiousity, can break our frame and give us the opportunity to learn something new.

What makes a good doctor? That is a difficult to answer question, but I suspect that one trait is their ability to notice and act upon that which elicts a “huh, that’s strange.”

 

Gratitude

In our consumer driven world of manufactured discontent, gratitude is the antidote to feeling emptiness and lack. Oddly enough, here in the USA we have a day of gratitude just before the onslaught of advertising that whispers a constant stream of diminishment. Perhaps it is one of those odd “messages in a bottle” that the universe presents as a puzzle of contradiction– that gratitude and connection in a moment of quiet opens the door to the deep reserves of support and abundance that are always waiting, like still water below life’s surface activity.

It is easy to focus on what is missing in our lives. All the more so when advertisement driven media relentlessly suggests and cajoles that what you have, and more importantly who you are, is not enough. That the accumulation of years is to be medicated or surgically enhanced. That the toys in our garage need an update. That our relationships would go better should we possess the product prayerfully flashing out from our flatscreen window of wonder.

There indeed are reasons in life for discontent, but few have to do with the urgent messages extolling us to open our wallets. There are moments in life when we come face to face with the harvest of an ill sown crop. Realize we are following a path not of our own choosing, or lost sight of a guiding star. It might be that life takes away its generous gifts and we feel stranded and alone. Especially in these times when we feel the world shift and our hope ebb away, the practice of gratitude reminds us of the deep resources that only may be claimed– they are not available for purchase.

Gratitude is not a pollyanna practice of propped up smiles, but a deep soulful appreciation for the vast wonder, forgiveness and support that is available even in the dark times. Indeed it can banish the shadow with a just glimmer of its light.

Wellness from the bottom up

Almost anyone over the age of 35 has this experience. A kind of slowing or decline. We don’t recover quite as fast from certain illnesses, our digestion slips a notch or two, we have less emotional tolerance toward certain situations, or we are plagued by odd symptoms or feelings that fail to make their mark on a western biomedical exam. There are countless ways in which we used to have a bit more “space,” more “flexibility” or a greater capacity to navigate stresses and strains that naturally arise in the  process of living. Mister Wu has learned a great deal about people by working on their feet for the past 30+ years. He has this idea that as we age, our body accumulates small compromises that by themselves quickly become unnoticeable, but at a certain point will begin to interfere and reduce our body’s ability to deal with assaults from the outside, or can coalesce together into a chronic or serious illness.

As he says it, “the space within the body gets filled up with the waste products of not quite resolved illnesses, unreleased emotion experiences, environmental toxins or the residue of physical injuries.”

From my clinical work, I think this is true. Problems that we used to be able to shake off, now seem to stick to us. It is like a car with worn out shock absorbers. We feel every little bump in the road, and our ability to maneuver seems more mushy.

While I use needles and herbs to treat these kinds of situations Mr. Wu uses his hands, which he focuses on the feet. His methods include those which more deeply direct the body to heal illness, and those which gently can be applied in a daily way to strengthen our systems so that they can properly metabolize and expel the flotsam and jetsam of everyday life.

There is a little foot massage protocol that he uses to get a person warmed up to receive a treatment. It stimulates the spine and all the spinal nerves, the immune system, the lymph system, along with the ren and du channels (these are major acupuncture channels that are considered quite fundamental). Along with these are five points on the big toe, these stimulate and balance deeper structures in the brain and thus rebalance the hormonal and endocrine system.

You can do this little massage for yourself or loved ones on a daily basis, like you take a vitamin or exercise to maintain your wellbeing. It is simply done in five minutes, feels great, and not only will boost your body’s ability to metabolize and expel what which does not serve you, but creates a quiet sense of wellbeing as well.

The simple stuff is the most helpful

This is a guest post from Ashley Kuykendall, who interned at Yong Kang during the summer

If you would have told me a year ago that I would be spending the summer before my senior year of high school doing an internship with an acupuncturist, I probably would’ve given you the same look that the curriculum coordinator gave me when I asked her if she would work with me to set up my internship at Yong Kang clinic. Although, I have to say, it’s something I’m very glad I did! I spent about a month shadowing Dr. Max and I learned so much, but so little in comparison to the wealth of knowledge that is circulating the world of Chinese medicine. The majority of my time at YK was spent shadowing Dr. Max as he talked with, examined, and treated patients. I even got to do some pulse and tongue diagnosis of my own. All along the way, I read literature about Chinese medicine and the different techniques that are used, but I found that the most helpful thing I learned was how to do the simple stuff.

The miraculous thing about Chinese medicine is that it incorporates theories that people have put into practice for many, many years. These therapies are gentle and self-stimulating in so far as the change in your health comes from your own body (with the help of some acupuncture needles or herbs, of course). The basic, underlying tenants of Chinese medicine are interesting, and they make me question what I know about how the human body works. As Dr. Max and I discussed, any treatment that makes people say “That’s so weird!” is a good one, because if nothing else, it sparks curiosity for them to want to learn more and ask the bigger questions: “What is this doing?” “How is this working?” “Why do needles in my elbow help my knee pain?” In order to ignite the flame that alternative therapies could be, people need to start asking questions. This is the main reason why I ended up doing my internship at Dr. Max’s clinic. I had a lot of questions about what kinds of therapies he had and why his treatments worked. Even though I had been using acupuncture for a while, but did not know what was really happening in my body.

Beyond the science is the practice, which I learned, can be the tough part of Chinese medicine. I’m certainly not qualified to treat patients or hypothesize beyond a partially educated guess about their conditions, but along the way, I have learned a few things that will help me for the rest of my life. Most of them are to help other people; some will help me to gather information, so I can understand more about them. The best illustration of this came when I was nearing the end of my time at the clinic.

One day, I was sitting at the breakfast table at my office job, talking to one of the girls at work. She commented on the fact that I was drinking ice water, saying that she couldn’t imagine drinking something that cold. It was then that I pointed out that she was drinking hot coffee…and it was 105 degrees outside. I went on to ask her if she had an affinity for other hot things like hot showers, or summer time temperatures. Not surprisingly, she did. She then went on to tell me about digestive issues that she has as well as some problems with headaches. It became clear to me very quickly what was going on with her; however, from her perspective, it was just a bunch of random things happening at the same time. Her obsession with heat, she told me, is “just the way she is.” What I told her was that, from a Chinese perspective, all of her symptoms fit perfectly together in a pattern for internal cold, and suggested that she try drinking some ginger tea to see if that would help with some of her problems. She immediately responded, telling me that she craves ginger occasionally. Her body was already attempting to lead her to a natural remedy. This tea is a really simple solution that I’d heard Dr. Max pass on to several patients–she’s going to give it a try.

Another piece of information that I learned is how to better focus on what my own body is telling me as well as what other people’s bodies are saying. I’ve found that, more often than not, you can gather a wealth of information from what a person is doing or how they are saying something, rather than from the words that they are actually speaking. Personality traits and general body composition play a big role in Chinese medicine, and knowing a bit of background about this area can really help in figuring out whether or not people have a susceptibility to certain health problems, or if they tend toward one particular illness pattern or another. One such thing is spotting a red tip of the tongue with someone who has been suffering from insomnia. While this isn’t a remedy, it is a diagnostic tool. It’s helpful because it serves as a starting point to figuring out what else might be going on with that person. I also learned about acupressure points that can be helpful in ‘curing’ the common cold, neck pain, and headaches. All of these are good remedies to know so that I am more equipped to help the people that I care about, which is really what medicine is all about.

I frequently find myself educating people, ever so slightly, about natural therapies that could be used as alternates to what they’re utilizing. Most of the time, I illicit a response chock full of confusion and doubt, but instead of being discouraged, I view it as an opportunity for growth. Never underestimate the impact that you could have on someone’s life by simply telling them that acupuncture or herbs are options. While at the clinic, I saw patients with chronic symptoms lessen significantly and side effects of chemotherapy diminished. I saw examples of successful fertility treatments, and balanced approaches to curing women’s issues. Acupuncture isn’t for everyone, but it could be. Everyone deserves the chance to have an alternative avenue for healthcare and general well-being. As for us, the people who have already discovered the gift of acupuncture, the best thing we can do is spread the word. Tell someone, or everyone you know about acupuncture and how it can help. Afford someone the opportunity to bring their life and their health into balance the natural way.

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Jane Lewis in Saint Louis

jane lewisJane Lewis is a facilitator who works with groups and individuals to help them uncover hidden resources and reinvigorate dreams tucked away on dusty shelves. She is also a skilled and deeply compassionate practitioner of Biodynamic Cranial Touch with a capacity to listen delicately to what is present, but not spoken.

Jane has been practicing and teaching craniosacral touch for over a decade in Taiwan and elsewhere around the world.

We are delighted that Jane will visit St. Louis May 22 through 29 and will offer her healing services at Yong Kang Clinic.

You will be in experienced, respectful hands. This is a rare opportunity to work with a master of art!

 

At Yong Kang Clinic Jane is offering:

  1. The Fortune Cookie Process, a 1.5 to 2 hour inquiry into a thorny problem
  2. Rewriting the Lease on Your Life, for those ready to engage the big (and seemingly impossible) dream or to bridge the chasm between where you are and where you wish to be
  3. Biodynamic Craniosacral Sessions
  4. Frame-Shifting Cranial Touch Workshop, Saturday May 25 (Taster event from 7 to 8 p.m. Thursday May 23)

Read on for details. Or for specific questions email Jane.
To book some time with Jane, call the clinic at 314-821-9642.

 

There is no self we can construct that will survive a real conversation. -David Whyte

(1) Fortune cookie process

Let’s say you have a thorny question you are wrestling with, and it’s just not resolving by itself. What do you do? Most people find themselves at times stuck with a problem, not really able to do anything and thus stay stuck. But action is what unlocks everything. The burning question is what action?

lighting the wayWhat if you could just quickly pick up a fortune cookie with the answer inside? Well, it’s not quite that fast, but almost, and there’s lots of great learning as you arrive at your own decision for an action. With a fortune cookie session, people are surprised when a “question only process” opens up their thinking and moves them from stuck with no (or few) attractive ideas, to having a number of good ones to pick from. You’ll be guided through open questions to your own (frequently surprising) decision for an action you are ready to take. Once action starts, things seem to change, by themselves, and you are no longer stuck. This process is great for individuals who have an issue they seem to be constantly stumbling over, and great for groups working on a project as it builds natural teamwork.

The “work part” takes 1.5 hours, but count on 2 hours total with getting settled, and all.
US$150 (suitable for from 1 – 8 people)
When making an appointment, let us know how many people will be coming.

 

“Only when we admit that we have “no way” do we have any hope of finding one.”

 

(2) The “Re-write the Lease on Your Life” process

Ever wish you were another person — or yourself with another life? Maybe you feel split, with a part of you wanting to start a totally new project, and another part holding tightly to a lifeless status quo. Maybe you’ve just run out of juice and those things that feel attractive seem impossible.

It’s time for a new map of the territory … but how to redraw it? Bring on the re-write! fortuneThis process is a deep, fast-moving exploration that taps into multiple intelligence processes. Transforms underlying contradictions into resources, clarifies strengths you already possess and unearths hidden resources to help you navigate the inevitable challenges and opportunities that accompany any journey of change.

At the end of this process you come away feeling things are profoundly different. You will have your own map of what’s there, and how to navigate it. This is about creating from the perspective of the future. And it has a profound effect on your outlook and definition of reality.

There are two stages to this process. In the “learn while planning loop” we go through five distinct and creative Q/A processes that result in a personalized map of the whole territory you are working with.

The second stage involves three follow-up sessions (the learn while doing loop). These sessions will be scheduled at approximately 1-month intervals. The time working together will be at least 10-15 hours over 3-4 months. Be prepared to be surprised by the motivation that just appears naturally for the future for which you have been waiting.

US$1,200.

 

“Let the forces that created the body heal the body”

(3) Biodynamic cranial touch

This work, at a deep level, helps you re-familiarize with your natural state of health. That natural state that perhaps you dimly remember from another time, but over the years has become hidden or masked as a response to past or present emotional and physical injury or disharmony. There is no drug or treatment method outside of yourself that intimately knows your own unique blueprint for wellbeing. This gentle process reintroduces you to that restorative resource that is always waiting quietly inside each and every one of us.

This deeply rejuvenating work can be great at supporting deep lifestyle change of any type. The work is not intended primarily to be therapeutic or medical, although it does have medical and therapeutic effects, and sometimes is downright transformative.

Common issues people come with are -
- Any type of “mysterious” body condition whose source is unknown or is not responding in expected ways
- Repetitive emotional loops
- Anything feeling deep and stuck
- Long-term conditions where you are in an unsatisfying holding pattern
- Nervous disorders
- Long-term stress (it can have the effect of a deep vacation – and you can ask for a double session if it feels like this is what you need)
- Chronic tension of the neck and shoulders

“It has been my experience that presence is a more powerful catalyst for change than analysis and that we can know beyond doubt things we can never understand.  My Grandfather’s Blessings by Rachel Remen”

What happens in a session?

You come in; meet Jane and orient a bit to what you are working on. You lie (fully clothed) on a comfortable massage table.

wavesOnce the session begins, there is minimal talk. It’s quiet, and there is very light touch applied in a way that allows your nervous system to go into a neutral mode and allow for a deep experience of Stillness. You may feel you are dreaming or floating. Or you may feel muscle, breath, or energetic shifts and releases. Some shifts are subtle and barely noticeable, some are like bubbles popping from somewhere inside. Most people come out of a session with an unusually quiet sense of wellbeing.

Cranial touch sessions are US$120 for 1-1.5 hours of work together (count on 2 hours of your time as you may want to linger in the clinic for spell after your session)

Although not necessary, it is effective to book three sessions to encourage the body as it releases orientation to old patterns. (3 sessions, USD$300)

 

(4) Frame-Shifting Cranial Touch
This is a very short focused intervention that can be delivered in as little as three minutes, but having 8-10 minutes brings more profound results.
Through very light and caring touch (to the head and upper chest) all types of pain and discomfort, either physical or mental can be reduced and sometimes completely “dissolved.”

Who can learn and use FSCT?
Massage therapists and other body workers, nurses, parents, aunts, uncles, therapists, hospice workers, acupuncturists, or chiropractors. Really, anyone who works with people butterfliesand is able to lay your hands on them will benefit from knowing how to apply this profoundly quieting and effective technique.

Thursday evening May 23rd at 7-8pm we will be offering a free “taster” at the clinic. Come and try it out, or watch and see how you can learn to do it. (Please RSVP)

Saturday May 25 from 9:30-4:30 Jane will be offering an FSCT class at Yong Kang clinic.
In the workshop, you will learn two levels of FSCT that you can use for other people and yourself. You will not only learn a skill to help your clients, family or friends, but also reduce or release your own pain or discomfort as well.

The tuition is $97, and there is space for up to 12 people.

Jane is also available for doing these sessions at the clinic, the cost $20.

 

Life offers its wisdom generously.  Everything teaches.  Not everyone learns.  Life asks of us the same thing we have been asked in every class:  “Stay awake.” “Pay attention.”  But paying attention is no simple matter.  It requires us not to be distracted by expectations, past experiences, labels and masks. It asks that we not jump to conclusions and remain open to surprise.
My Grandfather’s Blessings by Rachel Remen

Cultivating Connection

It’s that Hallmark time of year when we are supposed to conjure feelings of unimpeded lovewe-are-buddhas-all, and enjoy an evening of infatuation, chocolate and champagne. Those us that have been around the block a time or two know that love is not a noun, it’s a verb. And that relationships, be they love, work or personal are not events, but a process of cultivation.

It is easy to get along when we are in thrall of a serotonin high tide. And it is often easier to deal with difficult people when we have some kind of connection to them. But, what about when we don’t?

I’ve put this question to a number of colleagues that either have natural talent in the area of working with people, or have managed to acquire some skill over the years. Here are some rules of thumb to navigating difficulty in relationships.

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A quiet “That won’t work for me” or even “That’s unacceptable to me and here is why” will get you much further than having a wild Irish fit, or letting fly with a string of profanity.

I have always tried to live my life by “respecting and maintaining the differences.” It is a principle that I generally try to remind myself of when others are really driving me nuts. It is about respecting life in general and realizing and that whatever someone’s path is, it is theirs. We can maintain that difference, even if we don’t like the person.

Everyone does what they do for a positive reason. This does not mean their intention toward you is well intended or that they don’t in fact mean you harm. Still connect with that underlying positive intent and be prepared to be surprised.

“…When difficult students entered our high school science classroom, I tried to have some eye contact with them and offer them a short greeting. A friendly ‘Hello, Jeffrey,’ might be the only nice thing that he’s encountered that day….I never know what they’ve experienced since they last left our classroom, so I try to not judge or say anything that might make him/her feel worse…”

When your buttons are pushed … cut the wires!

Challenging people? I actually have 2 answers to this:
When it’s an encounter on “me” time, I get the hell away (life’s too short).
But when such an annoying, difficult type walks into my treatment room, I take deep breaths and let down my guard, zhenwuthen try to see where I might be able to help. It has been a surprise to me that I cannot just tolerate, but somewhat care for people I have no personal desire to be near.

I will refer to chapter 63 of the Dao De Jing:
Tackle the difficult when it is easy.
Handle the big when it is small.
Difficult things beneath heaven
Are made up of easy things.
Big things beneath heaven
Are made up of small things.
Thus the sage
Never deals with the great,
But accomplishes greatness.

And that’s how I strive to deal with difficulties…..
I don’t see tasks or people as difficult, they are just all part of the wave we are on. So let go, and don’t fight. Life is not difficult; we just make it difficult in our head.

Remember that as human beings we are absolutely full of hidden assumptions. Cultivate the practice, with others, of uncovering them. I find it a worthy lifetime endeavor.

I find that starting by acknowledging why they are angry up upset goes a long way to equalizing these situations. Some sort of a statement like “I can see that you are upset” or “You are exactly right. Let’s see if we can correct this situation” puts me in a much better space to then be assertive with what I need under the circumstances. I suppose that it is a yin, passive response first which then allows me to be more yang, active.
Behind the scenes, or mentally, if I try to put myself in their shoes I am also better able to understand their situation and then try to give them what they want in a way that also helps me as well.

I believe that everyone I meet is a reflection of aspects of my personality and consciousness. That compassion offers a few response choices:
I do my best to get a hold of myself and cultivate and emanate love overtly or covertly to that person.
If I can’t deal with that part of myself in that moment, I’ll extract myself.
If I think what I have to say will be useful, I’ll be direct.
Lastly, since I’m from NY and I’m Italian and identify with that, I can blow up, too. Ultimately, “Do unto others…” is a useful model for me.

Don’t let yourself react, before you try and understand their viewpoint. By stopping your initial reaction, you allow yourself time to see if there has been a miscommunication or any other situation that can be remedied by altering your perception. It also helps to make sure you heard or understood them correctly. When none of these works for me, I take a mental calculation on the necessity and time line in which I have to deal with this person. It makes it easier to put up with others personality issues when you know the end is near.

I have a rule when riding the city buses. I won’t stay on a bus that has more than three crazy people on it. I just get off and wait the 20 minutes for the next one.

I don’t know if I have much to offer, as I don’t think that I am very good at all in navigating difficulties with others. In any case, this is what I try to do:
butterflies1) take a breath to get at least semi-detached from the situation
2) try to do my best to see the situation from the other person’s perspective
3) try to come up with some way to align our desires.
As a example, when dealing with bureaucrats, the best way to proceed is to make it so that doing what you want is the easiest thing for them to do.

When navigating my way through a difficult situation with a loved one, friend or patient, it’s important for me to be honest, and not hide or gloss over my feelings, and it is equally important for me to resist any urge to be self-righteous or cast blame. I state my truth based on how I’m feeling, and try to avoid any statements that start with “you said” or “you did” that sound like blaming. It helps me feel some compassion for the other person, and most importantly, for myself.

I cannot control chaos; I can only choose to walk away from it.

An unpleasant exchange between two people in private later may lead to different versions of what was actually said, so try to discuss difficult work-related topics with a third person present or in an open area.

This presupposes that there are “difficult” people….. Each person acts on reality from their own “map of the world”.  They have made meanings of things and have associate emotions attached to those meanings.  The rub is, if you take it personally, you become hooked. Better to be un-insultable.
Take the “personal” out of it and replace it with curiosity!

We encounter many challenges as practitioners, I think it’s good to accept the ones we are prepared to face and to elegantly turn down the others.

Having the last word doesn’t mean it’s the right word.

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What about you? How do you navigate through the difficulties that we all at times face in dealing with (so called) difficult people, or situations.

Resolve

Forget resolutions. Work on resolve. Work on fortitude, on depth, on the core of what calls and informs your greatest joy and foundational dreams.

cup of inspirationForget the small goals of losing X pounds, or making a particular figure of $$$. Forget about the habits you label bad and unleash your inner policeman. Dismiss your constant prayer of “this is not enough, or I don’t like that.” These in fact are the guardians of stasis. These are the ways we keep ourselves small, and distance us from the life that may be lived outside the artificial safety of the rules that we imagine will keep us safe.

Forget about the details, go for the throat of the monster. Dare the dreaming that may discomfort your family and cause the neighbors to whisper and sigh. Forget the specific action or behavior you conjure as a reminder that life is lacking, and instead name the larger process you want to unfold.

Three words. Three guideposts. Virtues, values or guiding constellations. Three guiding principles for the year.

Perseverance. Intuition. Joy.
Commit. Create. Clarify.
Flow. Simplicity. Authenticity.
Depth. Persistence. Bridges.

Perhaps the resolution is “more travel,”but go deeper to the resolve which is “Joy.”
Perhaps the resolution is “lose 20 pounds,” but the deeper impulse is to cultivate the resolve of “Sacred.”
Perhaps the resolution is “not get angry at my spouse,” but the deep well of “Presence” is what seeks expression.

Find your three words. Or better yet, let them find you. You’ll know it when they bloom a certain sense in your heart. Choose three for this year. And work them with resolve!

Found your inspiration?— share them here in the comments.

Facilitative Questioning

This is a demonstration of Jane Lewis using the process of facilitative questioning to get to the heart of what began as an unspoken dilemma. This process can be done with an individual or group to help the inquirer find an action they are ready to take with a difficult problem. Clarity often brings its own pathway to resolution.

The process in a nutshell:

  • Go over guidelines (Total time. Midway break to assess process. At the end an action will be named.)
  • Set a timer.
  • State the question, and have person give 1-2 minutes of background.
  • Then begin with questions about the situation. Answers to be in the form of statements. (helpful to have a note taker to track these)
  • Statements can only be made in response to questions (If someone starts making statements without there being a question. Then pause and clarify the unasked question.)
  • Midway through do a short assessment and revisit original question. Is this still the relevant question?
  • At the end the inquirer names the action they will take.
  • Ask if the process was helpful, and how.
  • Done!

If you would like to get Jane’s help with a sticky question of your own, email her, contact her on Skype at HawaiiBreeze.

 

Asking the right questions: An interview with Jane Lewis

Jane Lewis, who lives in Taiwan, helps folks move forward in their lives by implementing Personal Strategic Plans (PSP), We talked to her recently about her work.

MM: Jane, tell us a bit about the Personal Strategic Plan.

JL: The PSP is a map for moving toward, or creating, the future that attracts you. It’s one of many very elegant processes developed by the Institute of Cultural Affairs (ICA). Originally it was used only with groups, but with a bit of modification it can also be used by individuals. alleywayThe PSP itself is a double-loop process. In one loop, you learn while planning. Then you take the plan into life and learn while doing.

The planning has five stages that, when woven together, already set deep change into motion:

Clarity on what is going on now.
Your operating vision, or what you see in an attractive future.
Contradictions. In this step we ask, “As for your vision, what is it that is operating now and if it continues to operate, will it make it harder to achieve your vision?” This step is full of surprises.
Next is strategy.
Actions come next, which by then are very well grounded in the bigger picture. The process goes deep.

MM: How long does it take to do a PSP?

JL: I’ve done PSP’s in as little as 20 minutes, and had one take 18 hours. Usually the process will fall within these two extremes. It’s easy to spend two half days on this, and then you have a PSP that operates as your personal guide that informs all you do.

MM: Why is it so effective?

JL:  l like to say that I don’t really know. After people do a PSP, they tend to point to different parts of the process as being the transformative part. But, generally, there’s a lot of power in creating from the future. Usually we are so busy we see only a step or two ahead of us. This process helps you distinguish what does and doesn’t matter, and let the things that don’t matter drop away. It is a guided process that helps you to articulate the truth you already have inside of you, and this gives a fresh life map that shows you your own territory relative to what is calling you, what sort of tugs at your heart relative to what you want to do or be in this life. Then it’s often effortless to let go of what does not matter. It can also be helpful when there is another person – me or another supporter — who gets excited about the work you are doing. This person is neutral to the content and just tends to the process, to help keep your action flowing. Then a lot of what I think of as “noise” in life just melts away.

MM: How does a PSP lead to action?

gatewayJL: Action is a big part. Through action everything changes. There are usually three mid-way check-ins as the plan gets implemented. In the first, we look at actions and their results, and see how the implementation process is going.  Often things that were seen as time consuming are completed almost instantly; other things that looked easy just won’t change. The plan always needs to be updated based on how life really works. The second check-in gives us a chance to examine contradictions.  Often, one or two contradictions dig in deeper whenever we begin to work with them. They’re kinda sticky! It’s good to locate those. And then the final check-in keeps momentum going as your changes reach completion. At this point, many people consider doing a whole new PSP because life has changed so much since we began.

MM: What can PSPs be used for?

JL: They can be used to deeply refocus with any life change — from suddenly losing your job or getting divorced (or married!) — or they can be done any time to deepen your clarity on who you are and what really matters. Or any time you say to yourself, “Oh, but that’s impossible.” A PSP is particularly fun to do when things seem impossible!

MM: Can you share with us some small piece of the process so we can get a feel for this work?

JL: Sure. PSP is a guided-question process. Here is a little piece that shows the power of questions. You can do this with another person when you have a burning question. The other person agrees to ask neutral, open (non-leading) questions.

1.  Agree to a time limit (ex. 20 minutes).
2.  Statements can be made only in response to questions. Either of you can ask questions.
3.  Set an intention to listen to understand and to speak to be heard.

Start with a statement of the question you want answered. Maybe write it down and post it in front of you so you remember it. Midway, you might check whether the question has changed as you learned things together. It could be a problem, an opportunity, a new project – something you need to start taking action on and don’t now know the action. Also something that feels burning and important.

“At the end of 20 minutes I want an answer to the question of —–”
“I want clarity on the risks of this business opportunity.”
“I want to clarify the opportunities that go with moving to Paris.”

4. Set up a five-minute warning.
5. When the time is up, the supporting person says, “OK, what is your action?” Write down the answer. Make sure the action is specific, measurable, actable, realistic, time framed — and will happen soon.
6.  Ask: “Was this process helpful?”
7.  Ask: “In what way?”
8. Then the focus person asks the support person, “What did you learn from this?”

Jane is available to do PSPs or other similar “life maps” via Skype. Contact her to find what would fit your situation. You’ll get your documentation as an electronic file, mailed within two days of the session.

Jane offers:
The “fortune cookie” process. ISWOTA. This is a short focused guided inquiry into a thorny question you are wrestling with. At the end you will have opened the context around your situation and likely moved from no or few possibilities ahead to having a great number. You’ll be guided through open questions to your own (frequently surprising) answer.
1.5-2 hour – US$150

The “rewrite the lease on your life” process. PSP. The five parts of the “learn while planning” loop will be done in one to four sitting (total 4-6 hours). The three follow up sessions will be scheduled together at approximately 1-month intervals. The time together will be at least 8-10 hours over three months. Be prepared to be surprised. US$1,200

All programs include one pre- and one post- mapping email to orient you and help you reflect on the process. The first helps you make the best use of the session by orienting you toward the method with examples from other people to consider. After the session you will receive session notes to review anytime, or use as a map to the future. After your work together is completed, you’ll receive a debriefing email where you can reflect on the process and the changes.

Thin layer connections

It often happens through the most whisper-thin of connections. The seemingly careless moments of expanded attention, the choice to followup a seemingly inconsequential lead, opportunity arrivesor the introduction to someone via a friend’s friend. We frequently choose colleges based on the hope to someday rub shoulders with certain people, take the job at the company with the reputation, or build a resume on the well trod pedigreed stepping stones of other’s recommendations. Yet, oddly enough, the juiciest connections, those pivotal moments that turn our lives onto a new trajectory come usually through the thin layer connections. The connections so seemingly obscure that they almost did not happen, but they did, and it has make all the difference.

Thin layer connections, the ones so remote and seemingly insubstantial, are often the ones that tilt the axis of our lives. They don’t so much rattle our paradigm as they do clear our perception in such a way that the opportunities waiting for us shimmer into view. These are the connections that can not be conjured or cajoled, they arrive like the spring breeze, or the wafting honey scent of a promiscuous flower. They catch our attention, but we could just as easily have brushed them off with a nod to the daily grind of business as usual, or ignored their seemingly inconsequential invitation.

The Chinese have a term that comes close to this— 緣分 Yuan Fen. Some translate it as “fate” but it is not quite the same way we think of fate in the West. Here we usually equal “fate” with “doomed.” Something is going to happen and there is nothing to be done about it, the end is already known. Yuan Fen is different. It is the intersection of fate and opportunity. Something could happen. The conditions are ripe with potential. But, there is a choice. You can open up and make contact, and the world will quietly, but unmistakably refold itself into a new shape. Or, you can pass by the opportunity, like shielding your eyes from a momentary glint of light, instead of noticing the world just winked an opportunity at you.

Thin layer connections, the connections we almost did not make. They often have a paradoxical lightness and depth. Grasp hard at them and they fall apart like a spider web. Hold them like claiming the fragment of a dream and they will nourish you for a lifetime.

Discovery

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The most exciting phrase to hear in science, the one that heralds the most discoveries, is not “Eureka!”, but “That’s funny…”
~Isaac Asimov

We like to think that the practice of medicine rides the rails of reason and logic. That there are codified answers to our inquiries. That an expert has an answer.
Often enough this is indeed the case.

But, there are those moments, and they are not infrequent, when we as practitioners think “huh, that’s weird.” Sometimes we toss it aside as useless and inconvenient. As it is outside our expected norm, we can discard it as inconsequential.  These moments, if taken as a gift of curiousity, can break our frame and give us the opportunity to learn something new.

What makes a good doctor? That is a difficult to answer question, but I suspect that one trait is their ability to notice and act upon that which elicts a “huh, that’s strange.”

 

Gratitude

In our consumer driven world of manufactured discontent, gratitude is the antidote to feeling emptiness and lack. Oddly enough, here in the USA we have a day of gratitude just before the onslaught of advertising that whispers a constant stream of diminishment. Perhaps it is one of those odd “messages in a bottle” that the universe presents as a puzzle of contradiction– that gratitude and connection in a moment of quiet opens the door to the deep reserves of support and abundance that are always waiting, like still water below life’s surface activity.

It is easy to focus on what is missing in our lives. All the more so when advertisement driven media relentlessly suggests and cajoles that what you have, and more importantly who you are, is not enough. That the accumulation of years is to be medicated or surgically enhanced. That the toys in our garage need an update. That our relationships would go better should we possess the product prayerfully flashing out from our flatscreen window of wonder.

There indeed are reasons in life for discontent, but few have to do with the urgent messages extolling us to open our wallets. There are moments in life when we come face to face with the harvest of an ill sown crop. Realize we are following a path not of our own choosing, or lost sight of a guiding star. It might be that life takes away its generous gifts and we feel stranded and alone. Especially in these times when we feel the world shift and our hope ebb away, the practice of gratitude reminds us of the deep resources that only may be claimed– they are not available for purchase.

Gratitude is not a pollyanna practice of propped up smiles, but a deep soulful appreciation for the vast wonder, forgiveness and support that is available even in the dark times. Indeed it can banish the shadow with a just glimmer of its light.

Wellness from the bottom up

Almost anyone over the age of 35 has this experience. A kind of slowing or decline. We don’t recover quite as fast from certain illnesses, our digestion slips a notch or two, we have less emotional tolerance toward certain situations, or we are plagued by odd symptoms or feelings that fail to make their mark on a western biomedical exam. There are countless ways in which we used to have a bit more “space,” more “flexibility” or a greater capacity to navigate stresses and strains that naturally arise in the  process of living. Mister Wu has learned a great deal about people by working on their feet for the past 30+ years. He has this idea that as we age, our body accumulates small compromises that by themselves quickly become unnoticeable, but at a certain point will begin to interfere and reduce our body’s ability to deal with assaults from the outside, or can coalesce together into a chronic or serious illness.

As he says it, “the space within the body gets filled up with the waste products of not quite resolved illnesses, unreleased emotion experiences, environmental toxins or the residue of physical injuries.”

From my clinical work, I think this is true. Problems that we used to be able to shake off, now seem to stick to us. It is like a car with worn out shock absorbers. We feel every little bump in the road, and our ability to maneuver seems more mushy.

While I use needles and herbs to treat these kinds of situations Mr. Wu uses his hands, which he focuses on the feet. His methods include those which more deeply direct the body to heal illness, and those which gently can be applied in a daily way to strengthen our systems so that they can properly metabolize and expel the flotsam and jetsam of everyday life.

There is a little foot massage protocol that he uses to get a person warmed up to receive a treatment. It stimulates the spine and all the spinal nerves, the immune system, the lymph system, along with the ren and du channels (these are major acupuncture channels that are considered quite fundamental). Along with these are five points on the big toe, these stimulate and balance deeper structures in the brain and thus rebalance the hormonal and endocrine system.

You can do this little massage for yourself or loved ones on a daily basis, like you take a vitamin or exercise to maintain your wellbeing. It is simply done in five minutes, feels great, and not only will boost your body’s ability to metabolize and expel what which does not serve you, but creates a quiet sense of wellbeing as well.

The simple stuff is the most helpful

This is a guest post from Ashley Kuykendall, who interned at Yong Kang during the summer

If you would have told me a year ago that I would be spending the summer before my senior year of high school doing an internship with an acupuncturist, I probably would’ve given you the same look that the curriculum coordinator gave me when I asked her if she would work with me to set up my internship at Yong Kang clinic. Although, I have to say, it’s something I’m very glad I did! I spent about a month shadowing Dr. Max and I learned so much, but so little in comparison to the wealth of knowledge that is circulating the world of Chinese medicine. The majority of my time at YK was spent shadowing Dr. Max as he talked with, examined, and treated patients. I even got to do some pulse and tongue diagnosis of my own. All along the way, I read literature about Chinese medicine and the different techniques that are used, but I found that the most helpful thing I learned was how to do the simple stuff.

The miraculous thing about Chinese medicine is that it incorporates theories that people have put into practice for many, many years. These therapies are gentle and self-stimulating in so far as the change in your health comes from your own body (with the help of some acupuncture needles or herbs, of course). The basic, underlying tenants of Chinese medicine are interesting, and they make me question what I know about how the human body works. As Dr. Max and I discussed, any treatment that makes people say “That’s so weird!” is a good one, because if nothing else, it sparks curiosity for them to want to learn more and ask the bigger questions: “What is this doing?” “How is this working?” “Why do needles in my elbow help my knee pain?” In order to ignite the flame that alternative therapies could be, people need to start asking questions. This is the main reason why I ended up doing my internship at Dr. Max’s clinic. I had a lot of questions about what kinds of therapies he had and why his treatments worked. Even though I had been using acupuncture for a while, but did not know what was really happening in my body.

Beyond the science is the practice, which I learned, can be the tough part of Chinese medicine. I’m certainly not qualified to treat patients or hypothesize beyond a partially educated guess about their conditions, but along the way, I have learned a few things that will help me for the rest of my life. Most of them are to help other people; some will help me to gather information, so I can understand more about them. The best illustration of this came when I was nearing the end of my time at the clinic.

One day, I was sitting at the breakfast table at my office job, talking to one of the girls at work. She commented on the fact that I was drinking ice water, saying that she couldn’t imagine drinking something that cold. It was then that I pointed out that she was drinking hot coffee…and it was 105 degrees outside. I went on to ask her if she had an affinity for other hot things like hot showers, or summer time temperatures. Not surprisingly, she did. She then went on to tell me about digestive issues that she has as well as some problems with headaches. It became clear to me very quickly what was going on with her; however, from her perspective, it was just a bunch of random things happening at the same time. Her obsession with heat, she told me, is “just the way she is.” What I told her was that, from a Chinese perspective, all of her symptoms fit perfectly together in a pattern for internal cold, and suggested that she try drinking some ginger tea to see if that would help with some of her problems. She immediately responded, telling me that she craves ginger occasionally. Her body was already attempting to lead her to a natural remedy. This tea is a really simple solution that I’d heard Dr. Max pass on to several patients–she’s going to give it a try.

Another piece of information that I learned is how to better focus on what my own body is telling me as well as what other people’s bodies are saying. I’ve found that, more often than not, you can gather a wealth of information from what a person is doing or how they are saying something, rather than from the words that they are actually speaking. Personality traits and general body composition play a big role in Chinese medicine, and knowing a bit of background about this area can really help in figuring out whether or not people have a susceptibility to certain health problems, or if they tend toward one particular illness pattern or another. One such thing is spotting a red tip of the tongue with someone who has been suffering from insomnia. While this isn’t a remedy, it is a diagnostic tool. It’s helpful because it serves as a starting point to figuring out what else might be going on with that person. I also learned about acupressure points that can be helpful in ‘curing’ the common cold, neck pain, and headaches. All of these are good remedies to know so that I am more equipped to help the people that I care about, which is really what medicine is all about.

I frequently find myself educating people, ever so slightly, about natural therapies that could be used as alternates to what they’re utilizing. Most of the time, I illicit a response chock full of confusion and doubt, but instead of being discouraged, I view it as an opportunity for growth. Never underestimate the impact that you could have on someone’s life by simply telling them that acupuncture or herbs are options. While at the clinic, I saw patients with chronic symptoms lessen significantly and side effects of chemotherapy diminished. I saw examples of successful fertility treatments, and balanced approaches to curing women’s issues. Acupuncture isn’t for everyone, but it could be. Everyone deserves the chance to have an alternative avenue for healthcare and general well-being. As for us, the people who have already discovered the gift of acupuncture, the best thing we can do is spread the word. Tell someone, or everyone you know about acupuncture and how it can help. Afford someone the opportunity to bring their life and their health into balance the natural way.